Midweek Nudge #68

“What you do every day matters more than what you do once in a while.”

— Gretchen Rubin

Hi there!

Here’s your gentle nudge to make your week more interesting, thoughtful and productive. You can always talk to me more about these ideas by replying to this email.

The Price of Consistency

Consistency is a high-leverage word today with all books about habits and improving your life milking the crap out of it. Consistency. Consistency. Consistency. Super essential and yet so elusive. You can only help but wonder how someone you know or idolise manages to be so consistent. If only you had the answer, you think, all your problems would be solved.

That’s only partly true. In my experience with it, I’ve learned that consistency has its price. It’s not that you don’t desire to be consistent or cannot. Any human being can very possibly repeat the same activity regularly over a long period. It’s not rocket science. Anyone can be consistent with anything. The problem is about the cost and can someone pay it, day after day.

The price of consistency is high. There’s ruthless prioritising. It’s in believing blindly in what you do or want to be consistent about. It’s also moderation where you keep yourself in check and avoid going overboard. This might mean less time and attention for things people around you don’t worry about. All that and balancing the occasional feeling of “live a little” are the few costs of consistency.

The trick, however, is only to be consistent on the day in front of you. When you think of consistency, you think of years. That mindset says: if I keep doing this for X years, I will call myself consistent. Nope. What happens after that? To be consistent, you have to pay a small price every day. You have to be able to call yourself consistent from day one until forever.

Consistency is not a problem you solve once; it’s a problem you solve every day.

What’s On My Mind?

While all of us are different people, there’s a common thread to human behaviour: everyone has a tick. It reflects in their decisions, the way they carry themselves every day. Most people are really only searching for one thing. It may be freedom for some. It may be power for others. It may be a fear of missing out for many. But there’s always a tick. It’s behind how we behave at work. It’s about how we choose a partner. If we can find or figure it out, we can then learn to align our behaviour with it instead of against it. The goal shouldn’t be happiness. It should be to know what ticks you and build a life with that in mind. Happiness is a side-effect of doing that.

I hope this added some value to your week. Stay safe, stay inspired, and I’ll talk to you next week.


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