Midweek Nudge #55

“Do anything, but let it produce joy.”

— Walt Whitman

Hi there!

Here’s your gentle nudge to make your week more interesting, thoughtful and productive. You can always talk to me more about these ideas by replying to this email.

What’s Happened Has Happened

I’d be lying if I said I don’t have one foot in the past on most days. In fact, most of the time, I’m playing some random memory about some specific people, places or events in my head. The problem with that is that it hinders my relationships with the same people and places, and it stops me, more often than not, from experiencing new things and letting new events happen to me.

Until recently, when I decided to catch myself off-guard as soon as I start thinking about a love gone wrong, an old context of life that COVID pushed me out of, essentially, of my life way before anything that’s on my mind happened. The details are irrelevant. The important bit is that each time I doze off into a daze of some old memory, I catch myself now. Subvocally, I tell myself: what’s happened has happened. That’s it.

I started doing this a few months ago. I’ve since mended my relationship with someone essential to me, become more accepting of friends moving in different directions, started to build towards a future instead of remembering how good things were a couple of years ago, et al. The constant stream of our memory, overlapping over the same iterations of the same events, over and over again has immense power over us.

Sometimes, we need to catch ourselves, give ourselves the reminders no one else will, and tell ourselves to focus on the present, regardless of how good or bad it may be.

What’s On My Mind?

Of how I practically miss my normal context when I’m out of it and how it is a measure of happiness. I enjoy my general life, including the difficult bits of managing a thousand things, learning regularly, and so on. While travelling around here and there, meeting friends and going on work trips is fun, I genuinely enjoy my average Monday more. I feel at home in my life now.

I hope this added some value to your week. Stay safe, stay inspired, and I’ll talk to you next week.


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