“Blame-all and Praise-all are two blockheads.”
— Benjamin Franklin
Here’s your gentle nudge to make your week more interesting, thoughtful and productive. You can always talk to me more about these ideas by replying to this email.
Stop Finding The Scapegoat!
Finding the reason something went wrong is part-and-parcel of solving the problem at hand. Yet, instead of finding the reason constructively, we often try to find something or someone to blame. We start looking for a scapegoat. “I did everything as best as I could have if only that one thing hadn’t happened…” is a terrible narrative to live by, especially when you’re solving a problem.
If you can’t find a proper reason for something going wrong, it’s better just to let it be and focus only on the solution instead. This is not to say that something or someone wasn’t at fault. That may be true; there may be a source to whatever you’re trying to solve, but your intention should always be of extracting useful information from the cause instead of finding a scapegoat to blame.
Imagine you’re working on a large piece of code, for example, and if something goes wrong, you can either focus on who or what caused it, or you can inquire about what part of the code or practice was at fault and immediately move to find solutions instead. If you find yourself lost on a highway because of some misinterpretation of the map, instead of finding who read it wrong, your focus should be on finding where you diverged from the correct route.
There are no winners in the blame game.
What’s On My Mind?
The idea of a hundred bad days. Whenever we start something new, there are bound to be some difficult days. That’s because we’re still getting acclimatised to the entire thing. It could be a new job, a new neighbourhood or whatever else that comes to mind. If it feels the same after a hundred days (roughly three months), we can probably jump ship without guilt.
I hope this added some value to your week. Stay safe, stay inspired, and I’ll talk to you next week.
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