“Today is the first day of the rest of your life.”
– American Proverb
Here’s your midweek newsletter — a gentle nudge to make your week more interesting, thoughtful and productive.
Life Changes, Cold Water and Shivering
When I was finally free to do whatever I wanted throughout the day, something unexpected happened. I was all ready with ideas, plans and whatnot. I realised I had no energy at all.
I couldn’t get up on time. I would nap spontaneously during the day. To be honest, keeping up with the Nudge Schedule was the toughest when I had all the time in the world, and that was surprising to me.
So, after a few days, I made it a point to understand what was wrong because something was wrong. That’s when I realised I had just hopped out of an incredibly cold shower.
The thing with cold showers or just you know jumping in cold water, be it in a pool or the sea, is that at first it’s scary and it seems like a huge discomfort. Then, when you’ve jumped and have received that first shock, you like it inside the water.
Until you decide to, or you know, you have to get out. When that happens, you tend to shiver more than you did when you first entered the water. It’s interesting because at first, you didn’t want to enter and now, getting out seems impossible.
Once that shiver runs out, and you get some warm beverage or food, you’re alright. Often, you’re okay even without the F&B.
So, how does that relate to any situation with extreme discomfort? At first, it kills you. You are exhausted. You’re jumping between the hoops. Eventually, though, you settle in that discomfort.
Stay in the water too long, though, and you’ll get sick. You decide to get out of the water. However, now that you’ve been in it for so long, as soon as you get out, you shiver. The out-of-the-water world feels colder and uncomfortable.
That’s the thing with any significant life change, especially one which comes after a strenuous phase. You get so used to the discomfort that suddenly getting out of it means your body and mind need time to adjust.
Once I understood that I was as shaken up and out of my usual step, because I had just gotten out of the incredibly cold shower, I decided to let it be. It took more than a week but on Monday, I woke up on time. I started on my plan. All of it began to fit again.
The point is, you can’t avoid the shiver. You can’t tell yourself not to feel cold. However, that doesn’t mean you’ll stay in the shower forever.
All you need is some time (and some hot cocoa) to get used to the new normal.
Time Travel Today To Today
This is not an original idea. I’ve seen it in various forms all through my life: as a tweet years ago, in a movie, in a book. The movie is what we’ll use today, though.
Spoiler alert, if you haven’t watched the 2013 movie called About Time starring Domhnall Gleeson and Rachel McAdams. In any case, the movie is about a man trying to understand his ability to travel through time. I won’t go into the plot, but it is his conclusion that is important.
He concludes that instead of revisiting every moment to experience it again, he now tries to be fully conscious and experiences it pretending how he’d do it when he’d travel back through time.
Said differently, the idea is that we all wish there are moments we could experience again. They could be random memories or key moments where things changed for better or worse. However, we barely grab a handle on the present, and you know, experience it.
Also, we’re so sure about the hypothetical time travel to the past. We focus so much on the what-ifs that we forget what-is and what-is is that your life is going on right now. If you wish to change something ten years ago, start making that change today for the version of you who’ll exist ten years from now.
The future you will be grateful.
Reading List: 12 Rules for Life by Dr Jordan Peterson
“We cannot navigate, without something to aim at and, while we are in this world, we must always navigate.”
My reading was in a bit of slump lately. However, I’m finally close to completing this book, and there’s just one thing I can say for it: Read it.
It’s an essential book if you’re looking to get perspective that is not sugarcoated and comes from a place of true research and care. Dr Peterson challenges the prevailing norms and ideas that we have for what is noble and healthy while providing the necessary background.
It’s a great read, and an interesting one because he draws from myths, from scripture, and modern ideas like Disney movies
Quick Update On Nudge › How
In the last post, I explained what I call the Three Things Rule or the Good Day Rule in detail on the blog. Also, the Instagram summary for this post kind of blew up, and that was awesome to experience. Thank you so much if you were a part of that support.
One last thing, we’re finally beginning with the 7-by-7 nudges. Look forward to new bits on Tuesdays and Thursdays. As always, I’ll be open to feedback. I’m really excited!
I hope this added some value to your week. Stay safe, stay inspired, and I’ll talk to you next week.