“It’s the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary; only wise men are able to understand them.”
— Paulo Coelho
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The Warped Lenses of Someone in Pain
Six months ago, I wasn’t in the best space mentally, financially or physically. I was trying my best to cope with all of it, though. It may or may not have been reflected in the newsletter but the frequent breaks resulted from the same turmoil. On a random day, I was talking to a friend. She has always been close to nature, enough to tear up at a beautiful view. She especially loves sunsets. So, one day we were talking about travelling, and I said, “sunsets are overrated; once you’ve seen one, you’ve seen all of them.”
Of course, I didn’t mean it. I have always been the person who urges others to look around, to find beauty in the ordinary things—the person at the bus stop, a cup of coffee, a beautiful lake or the sea or the hills. I even recommend zoning out to look at your friends laughing to save that very ordinary but essential memory. Yet, I uttered the words I spoke. In the same conversation, I told her there were no trees in my neighbourhood either.
Six months later, now that the lens of hurt has faded, I can only wish I take my words about the sunsets back. I sit every day, watching the hills from my balcony, reading. The neighbourhood has enough trees that I get tired of counting. I’ve tried it more than once. Yet, I’ve been wondering where those thoughts came from. I don’t have an answer. All I know is pain, hurt, and sickness have a terrible tendency to warp our minds beyond our control.
In those phases, it’s important to remember no two sunsets are the same.
What’s On My Mind?
The reason most people do anything is to prove something. Then, we have two choices: either to prove something to others or ourselves. The latter is where growth lies. The former will have you running around in circles for the rest of your life.
I hope this added some value to your week. Stay safe, stay inspired, and I’ll talk to you next week.
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