“It is not necessary to accept everything as true, one must only accept it as necessary”
— Franz Kafka
Here’s your midweek newsletter — a gentle nudge to make your week more interesting, thoughtful and productive.
How Hard Could It Be?
Often, we talk about things that we had to do or want to do, but we haven’t done yet. It could be picking up a new hobby or starting a side business or just reading some book that you’ve always wanted to read but found difficult. I’ve realised that we often equate doing something to doing something inexplicably well. That’s not a constructive attitude, though because as humans, we cannot be amazing at everything we do but does that mean we don’t do anything? I don’t think so.
Subconsciously, we find things difficult to master and therefore, we don’t do them at all. We decide we’ll probably not be good enough at the thing, so why bother, right? Life’s too short. Yet, that’s the only reason we should try everything we can because even if we’re not fantastic at everything we pick up, we can get moderately good at anything we pick up if we keep at it and practice with integrity.
If you’ve been procrastinating on anything that you’ve wanted to do for a long time, ask yourself whether you’ve been doing that because you’re afraid you won’t get it right or be great at it. If that is the case, think if you can be good or even just average at it. Then, ask yourself: how hard could it be?
By then, I promise you that you’ll have picked the thing up already. The thing is, trying something is not hard at all. It’s our need to signal we’re awesome that is hard. If we try to leave that need behind, life starts to blossom in all directions. Make mistakes, be average at things, how hard could it be, right?
The Baggage We Carry Unwittingly
In life, we’re often moving as if we are on a journey. It’s the most cliche comparison, really. However, it has a lot of truth to it, especially when you consider the fact that we almost always overpack. We can’t let go of things when we’re travelling, so we keep moving with the random souvenirs or things we picked up in our bags. Over time though, the bag starts to feel heavy.
As time passes, it gets difficult to move forward. We’re moving slowly, but we don’t realise it. Until one day, we get some help from those travelling with us, or we find a place to dump our baggage. That’s when we realise how slow we were moving in the first place because we couldn’t travel light. It’s important to note that in life, everyone has some baggage they are carrying unwittingly.
I’m doing that too, and most likely, you are too. It could be an old event that still bothers you. It could be an old relationship, an old argument, an old trauma, an old accident and so on. The common thing with all baggage is that it is always old. It’s important to recognise the old from the new and the now in our lives, and then let go of things we won’t need on our journey forwards.
Are you carrying any baggage unwittingly? How can you get rid of it?
To Read: The Trial by Franz Kafka
“From a certain point onward there is no longer any turning back. That is the point that must be reached.”
The Trial was the last book in the existential literature list that I compiled to read when the last year began. I finished it yesterday, and I must say it’s an odd book. I mean that most positively, though. This book, like most of Kafka’s works, is incomplete and also, cryptic. Also, there’s a sense of urgency and paranoia in each paragraph.
Josef K. is an interesting character, to say the least, and I like how Kafka left so many things unanswered, the biggest one being what Josef K. was being tried for and by whom. In some ways, this book is a direct commentary on bureaucracy where we often get lost between chains and chains of people where each person has a distinct role, and that’s what fully defines them such as the person who is in-charge of whipping people in a certain sequence of this book.
All in all, it’s a good story which is incomplete but does make some sense and leaves you with a mouth hanging and a thousand questions in your head: about both the story and yourself.
What’s On My Mind?
The benefits of the lifestyle choice of having significant money in your savings and investment accounts, and only considering your checking/transactional accounts as your total net worth. The way it impacts your daily decisions, including managing finances for general expenditure. Also, feeling broke more often but all for good reason.
Quick Update on Nudge › How
Last week, I wrote about one of the central ideas of Nudge › How: Imposter Syndrome. It’s so crucial to what I do on Nudge that it’s already on the homepage in brief. In the blog post, I discussed how I use a strategy called Earn It Backwards to overcome my Imposter Syndrome and how that philosophy has helped me over the years. I also attempted to boil it down to a system of sorts and to understand why it works despite being so simple in theory.
I hope this added some value to your week. Stay safe, stay inspired, and I’ll talk to you next week.