“People’s minds are changed through observation and not through argument.”
— Will Rogers
Here’s your gentle nudge to make your week more interesting, thoughtful and productive. You can always talk to me more about these ideas by replying to this email.
What Riles You Up?
A friend shared something on a group chat today. It was a comic, and it shouldn’t have made me as angry as it did. It did, though. I sent a barrage of texts. This behaviour was uncalled for and way out of character for me, in general. An hour later, I sent an explanation for why I acted. I also shared the backstory for some of the things I said. Half an hour from then, I sent a proper apology for my sudden outburst.
However, this entire scenario gave me an answer to something I’ve been trying to solve for a while. I’ve realised how rarely I share my opinion in a group or face-to-face setting until all that pent up disagreement results in an outburst quite like the one I had today.
A couple of years ago, I dated someone. In what transpired during and after that relationship, I realised I stopped rocking the boat. I stopped sharing my opinions or point of view. In general, this meant most of my interaction with people was peaceful. Yet, something felt off. It wasn’t until today that I could put a pin on it.
A random outburst over a specific comic made me realise how it all traces back to those six months of walking on eggshells. These words aren’t a request for sympathy, and I was also unfair to the person in my way. I intend only to share this little epiphany. Sometimes, the answers to the things that trouble us the most are found in our spontaneous outbursts if we’re observant enough.
What riles you up may often tell you what’s wrong, and as I start to work on this need to avoid rocking the boat, I hope this thought might point you in the right direction. I hope you find something of value there. I hope you work on fixing it too.
That’s all any of us can do.
What’s On My Mind?
A good, understanding social support system, like friends, family or even colleagues, is one of the most underrated coping mechanisms. No one on those high-horse Instagram pages talks about them. Everything’s about the self, but the answer is often in other people holding space for you without using the words and the cliches—just a vibe of acceptance; nothing more, nothing less.
I hope this added some value to your week. Stay safe, stay inspired, and I’ll talk to you next week.
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