Midweek Nudge #66

“What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude.”

— Brené Brown

Hi there!

Here’s your gentle nudge to make your week more interesting, thoughtful and productive. You can always talk to me more about these ideas by replying to this email.

The Guilt in Our Cards

The cards we hold in life can be anything—affluence, influence, talent, disease, disparity, misfortune, to name a few. Every life is different, each with its challenges and failures. Often, we’re told to do what we want to despite the cards handed to us. If you listen to any popular song about making it, you’ll find some verse about cards being given and being turned. That’s a fantastic narrative. Of course, it’s also true.

There’s another side to that story, though. It’s when the cards are in your favour, but you’re guilty of using them. Of course, if your using influence takes away someone else’s opportunity, that’s probably not a nice thing to do. Taking the card analogy forward, though, not using your cards is like playing poker, having a Royal Flush but folding after the River (fifth card) is dealt. It just doesn’t make sense.

For example, if you’re moderately affluent and can afford to take some time off work to figure things out and find yourself, there’s no harm in the decision. Or take it on the personal branding front; if you do genuine work, not promoting yourself is like folding while holding two Aces. The decision you make doesn’t have to be one or the other, but the cards we hold (as long as they don’t harm someone else’s chances directly or worse) are a perfectly valid option.

Removing some options because of the guilt that comes along with using your own cards is a form of self-sabotage.

What’s On My Mind?

Habits probably don’t improve life directly. Instead, they help you pass through phases when life is regressing smoothly. In other words, habits aren’t catalysts of the positive; they are deterrents of the negative. 

I hope this added some value to your week. Stay safe, stay inspired, and I’ll talk to you next week.


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