“Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.”
— William James
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The Life in Front of You
Most self-improvement and growth revolves around the idea of getting there. It’s always about action. Even the way reflective ideas such as journaling or meditation are talked about makes them less about what they actually are and more about reaching somewhere through them.
I’ve been thinking a lot about the idea of stepping up. Stepping up to responsibility, stepping up to do the right thing, stepping up in crisis and so on. I had a tiny epiphany recently. I realised that sometimes stepping up is pausing and looking at the life in front of you. It’s in accepting what is instead of the umpteen what ifs. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but it is what it is.
The grandest act of improvement is, perhaps, in looking at your life, at your general days, without any outward or inward pressure and saying: I like it here. Now, I know this might seem counter-intuitive to the idea of growth, but the more I think about it, the more I talk about it with others, it’s apparent to me that it is not the case at all.
The life in front of you is the life you have. Even if you were to change it, even if you were to improve it, you would have to separate the good from the bad. Somewhere between that entire process of sifting between what works and what doesn’t, you’ll almost spontaneously say: I like it here. It isn’t as bad. It used to be worse in so many ways.
Then, do whatever you want about the bad or the ugly or the undesirable.
What’s On My Mind?
When we think about doing the right thing, who is it right for? Is it for ourselves or others involved, or does it change on a situation-to-situation basis? How does one decide what the right course of action is without relying on the gift of hindsight?
Apologies for the sudden disappearance. If you don’t follow the Instagram channel, you’d not be aware. I contracted COVID-19. I’m all safe and on my way to recovery now.
I hope this added some value to your week. Stay safe, stay inspired, and I’ll talk to you next week.
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