“We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin has to be shed before the new one can come.”
— Joseph Campbell
Here’s your gentle nudge to make your week more interesting, thoughtful and productive. You can always talk to me more about these ideas by replying to this email.
Everything Goes Wrong, Eventually
Wait, wait. Hold your horses. I know that’s a rather pessimistic take, but hear me out. Something I’m learning to do lately is to enjoy the current moment. Yes, when I say current, I mean the spectacular now. The second I’m putting these words on the screen as some indie-pop music is playing in the background and a cup of warm water rests beside me. I’m trying to be more present.
However, I’m also learning a simple truth: everything goes wrong if you wait long enough. The jury’s still out on the good or bad of it, but it is the truth. An impeccable streak will break. A good relationship will stumble. A great career will get wobbly. Sometimes, things shake up beyond repair. Sometimes, you learn and fix things for the better. Sometimes, you let things go.
The trick is to be accepting of it, to revel in the present. We never know when our happiness is at a peak. The best course of action is to take it all as if it were the peak. The problem arises when our mental model says, “this is how it is always going to be, and it will all be alright.” Even if we don’t say it out loud explicitly, our expectation is the same (especially when it comes to the good stuff). Everyone’s on a hot hand fallacy when life is good. There is wisdom in accepting: everything goes wrong, eventually.
The better thing to think about is: how will you carry yourself when it does?
What’s On My Mind?
The idea that a fresh start is not always a new job or a new city or a new relationship; a fresh start can also be when all things you consider ground rules, all your fundamentals for your life, all of your reasoning for everything in the world crashes and burns. When everything you call “true” starts to feel less so. That’s when you can start again, too. You can begin to redefine how you think, what you believe and who you are.
I hope this added some value to your week. Stay safe, stay inspired, and I’ll talk to you next week.
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